We live in a day and age where we are ALWAYS on the go. Rushing around from point A to point B. Burnout is on a rise, and doing more is considered a badge of honor. Rarely do you meet people who have “free” time or lack of schedules. Here’s the problem with that- if you overcommit, and are in a constant state of rushing around from activities, meetings, chores- then you’re blood pressure tends to be higher, which elevates your cortisol levels, which slows your metabolism, affects your sleep, and causes a lot of other issues in our body.
Rest and self care need to be something we re-implement back into our day to day. Self care should be the priority- because we can’t operate on a high level of stress forever, eventually we crash. Sometimes- it’s small, like sleeping for a few days, other times, people have heart attacks or collapse. And who wants to wind up with serious medical issues? Not me- that’s for dang sure.
But what exactly IS self care? According to Everyday Feminism Self care is defined “basically any set of practices that makes you feel nourished, whether that’s physically, emotionally, spiritually, all of the above. Self care is putting aside time to recharge in a way that’s meaningful to you, and that can mean different things to different people.”
So Self Care varies from person to person. You and your spouse may have different definitions of self care. You and your siblings may not think the same activities give someone rest and recharge. But it’s important for you to figure out what brings you joy, what makes you feel refreshed, and how often you should do self care.
Some people need small amounts of time everyday. Others, once a week. And there are even some people that need large chunks away from their home and responsibilities a few times a year in order to feel refreshed.
Here’s how you get started:
So the first steps into figuring out some self care are for you to take some time, sit down (preferably alone, or undistracted) and list out things that bring you joy and make you feel relaxes, refreshed, and rejuvenated.
Things can include:
Going for a Walk
Drinking Coffee Outside
Getting a pedicure
Spending a weekend away from home
Errands by yourself
Now think about the frequency you would like to implement in your life. Some questions to think about can be:
Would you be able to space self care out?
Do you need it everyday?
Once a month?
A few times a year?
Do you prefer to be alone or with people?
If with people, who lifts you up and makes you feel relaxed?
Who are people you would like to avoid when doing self care?
Remember there is no right or wrong answer to this- this is your personalized self care plan.
Now that you have the answers to some of those questions, where do you go from there?
That’s where I come in! As a Sanity Saver Mentor- I help you develop a self care plan and implement it in your day to day life. Are you interested in learning more? Send me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org and let’s get started on your personalized plan.